Are you determined to get what you want? I mean, REALLY determined, to the point that you will wait for it, give it time to happen and be consistent in your actions toward it? What if you are not, what if you are self-sabotaging the desires you have for your life, by simply waiting to act? If there is something, ANYTHING you WANT to happen, and you are putting off taking action NOW, then you are playing the ever so dangerous Later Game. Nothing happens by chance. You are behind you are motives.
“Dishes got to be done”, Later.
“Need to change the oil”, Later.
“I have to practice my presentation”, Later.
“I want to give some time to charity”, Later.
“I want to spend more time with family and friends”, I’ll schedule it Later.
So what’s the problem with “Later”? Unknowingly, Later sabotages your desire to be better, to get what you want. Later allows you to not worry about getting a plan of action together now and take action. Accordingly you set yourself up, not only to fail, but even worse, to not even try. In my own words, “Later Sucks”. Read More »
Self-Sabotage, The Biological Roots
Self-sabotage is any thing that you allow to affect and stop your desire and will to take action toward what you want. The roots of self-sabotage lie in something we all know from biology class. Fight or Flight. This innate nerve/adrenal response to danger is found in all animals, but because it works so efficiently and because Humans are so good at imagining, we often trick ourselves into flight mode and postpone the action to a later date at the slightest sign of danger. Later contains a lot of emotion, especially Anxiety created by Fantasy Fears of the unknown. When we imagine what might happen when we start to take action toward something we really want, we get nervous, and we worry that it will not happen or worse yet, that we may fail if we try. This worry and fear we develop is derived from fantasy, which feels real, and we experience some form of anxiety, and from experience we found that postponing helps alleviate that anxiety. Read More »